“Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” - 1 John 3:18

Love is probably the most overused and misunderstood word in our language. We say we love everything from pizza to our spouse, but true love-the kind John writes about-is something entirely different.

John cuts through all the romantic notions and gets to the heart of what real love looks like. It’s not about feelings, though feelings may be involved. It’s not about words, though words matter. Real love is about action and truth. It’s about choosing to do what’s best for someone else, even when it costs you something.

This kind of love is challenging because it requires sacrifice. It’s easy to love people when they’re lovable, when they appreciate what we do, when they love us back. But authentic love-the kind that reflects God’s love for us-loves even when it’s difficult, even when it’s not returned, even when it requires us to give up something we want.

The world has taught us that love is primarily an emotion-something that happens to us. But biblical love is primarily a choice-something we decide to do. When Jesus said to love our enemies, He wasn’t talking about having warm feelings toward them. He was talking about choosing to act in their best interest despite how we feel about them.

Think about someone in your life who is difficult to love. This week, choose one specific action that demonstrates love toward that person-not because they deserve it, but because God has called you to love authentically. Let your actions speak louder than your words.

Father, thank You for loving me with actions, not just words. You demonstrated Your love by sending Jesus to die for me while I was still a sinner. Help me to love others the same way-with actions that cost me something, with truth that sometimes hurts, and with consistency that doesn’t depend on my feelings. In Jesus’ name, Amen.